HATRED vs. TOLERANCE

OK, I GIVE UP. I SURRENDER. I CAN NOT …NOR DO I WANT TO,OR NEED TO UNDERSTAND WHO IS DOING WHAT TO WHOM AND HOW THEY ARE DOING IT, WHERE THEY ARE DOING IT OR WHO IS WATCHING THEM WHILE THEY ARE DOING IT. I JUST DON’T CARE…..I do not understand all the different sub-classifications. AS LONG AS PEOPLE ARE CONSENTING ADULTS and NOT ABUSING PEOPLE VIA SEXUAL SLAVERY OR  RAPING ANYONE or SEXUALLY ABUSING CHILDREN IN ANY WAY IT IS THEIR BUSINESS AND NOT MINE. IN MY HUMBLE OPINION, PERPETRATORS OF SEXUAL SLAVERY, RAPERS AND CHILD MOLESTERS JUST NEED TO BE HANDLED BY WHATEVER JUSTICE SYSTEM IS IN PLACE AND IF CONVICTED THEY SHOULD RECEIVE SWIFT EXECUTION…… OF THEIR SENTENCE. THE PROBLEM WITH THAT IS THAT IN SOME COUNTRIES, PEOPLE ARE STILL EXECUTED JUST FOR BEING GAY AND/OR FOR PROMOTING A ALTERNATE RELIGIOUS ALTERNATIVE.

I AM A STRAIGHT, HAPPILY MARRIED MAN FOR ALMOST 40 YEARS TO THE SAME WOMAN AND I HAVE BEEN FAITHFUL TO MY WIFE EVER SINCE I STOLE HER AWAY FROM HER HUSBAND. SO YES,  I AM A BAD GUY AND A SINNER.  I AM WORSE THAN SOME PEOPLE AND BETTER THAN OTHERS. (Just Like EVERYBODY ELSE !). WE ALL CAN AGREE ON THE FACT THAT GOOD PEOPLE SOMETIMES DO BAD THINGS. BUT THERE ARE DISTINCT DIFFERENCES BETWEEN SOMEONE STEALING BECAUSE THEY ARE HUNGRY AND A PERSON THAT STEALS BECAUSE THEY ARE DRIVEN BY GREED. SOME PEOPLE LOVE TO HATE BECAUSE IT MAKES THEM FEEL SUPERIOR. SOME PEOPLE HATE TO LOVE BECAUSE IT MAKES THEM FEEL VULNERABLE. SOME PEOPLE HATE the LGBTQ COMMUNITY PEOPLE BECAUSE THEY DON’T THINK THEY HAVE THE RIGHT TO EXIST AND BREATH THE SAME AIR THAT WE ALL BREATHE.     I AM THE PROUD FATHER OF A GAY WOMAN. SHE IS A WONDERFUL HUMAN BEING. MY DAUGHTER IS MOTHER TO MY GRAND DAUGHTER AND MY DAUGHTER IS HAPPILY MARRIED TO HER WIFE.  MY DAUGHTER IS A EDUCATED PROFESSIONAL.  FORTUNATELY, SHE TAKES AFTER HER MOTHER IN MANY WAYS. WHEN MY DAUGHTER TOLD ME SHE WAS GAY I WAS SAD BECAUSE I THOUGHT I WOULD NEVER HAVE A GRAND CHILD. I ONLY THOUGHT ABOUT MYSELF. MY DAUGHTER BECAME THE BIOLOGICAL MOTHER AND THEY GOT A SPERM DONER. MY DAUGHTER EXPERIENCED SOME BIGOTRY BECAUSE OF HER SEXUAL ORIENTATION. I CALLED A GAY WOMAN FRIEND FROM HIGH SCHOOL BY THE NAME OF EILEEN F. IN SEATTLE WA. AND TOLD HER WHAT I WAS GOING THROUGH AND HOW I WAS FEELING REGARDING MY DAUGHTER.  SHE GOT REALLY STERN WITH ME AND BECAME A LITTLE ANGRY AND ASKED ME,  “WHO IN THEIR RIGHT MIND WOULD “CHOOSE” A LIFE WITH SUCH DIFFICULT OBSTACLES, AND PREJUDICES AND DISCRIMINATION??  SHE EXPLAINED THAT NOBODY CHOOSES TO BE GAY ! SHE EXPLAINED THAT A PERSON EITHER ACCEPTS IT OR HIDES IT AND LEADS A LIFE OF LIES. THEN I FINALLY GOT IT !  SHE SAID THAT GAY MEN MAY DEAL WITH BEING GAY DIFFERENTLY THAN GAY WOMEN BUT THEY ALL DEAL WITH THE SAME DISCRIMINATION AND THE SAME HATRED. SHE EXPLAINED THAT PEOPLE DO NOT “CHOOSE” THEIR SEXUAL ATTRACTION AND IT IS SEXUAL ATTRACTION THAT REVEALS ITSELF TO PEOPLE. THEN I FINALLY GOT IT !

I REMEMBER A LONG TIME AGO, I HAD THE OPPORTUNITY TO BUY A 1966 XKE  2+2  JAGUAR CONVERTIBLE (all original and stock) for ONLY…

$ 2500.00 and I could not come up with the cash !! I actually got a hard on looking at that car !!  I wanted to buy it and take it home and put her in the garage and turn the lights out AND MAKE LOVE TO THAT CAR !!  I realized that I could not control my attraction for that car. I felt like some kind of BIONIC TERMINATOR LOVE MACHINE ! I felt so ashamed. So I cried all night and the next day I felt guilty for having sexual feelings outside my own species. I tried to overcome the evil thoughts…. but late at night sometimes…still, I dream about the one English beauty that got away. My Jag….  I let her slip away, never to see her again…………What is my point ? I don’t think anyone chooses the PEOPLE or the THINGS that truly attract US. THEY JUST DO ! People do not choose a lifestyle because it is painful and difficult. Please do not discriminate against others for no reason. They believe they are doing the right thing when they discriminate BUT… Let’s face the facts, Nazi Germany thought they were doing the right thing when they EXTERMINATED 6 MILLION JEWS, GAYS, GYPSIES, etc. etc…My point is that many intelligent people can think they are doing the RIGHT THING when in fact…. IT IS JUST THE OPPOSITE! SO ASK YOURSELF IF YOU THINK IT IS BETTER TO ACCEPT YOUR FELLOW HUMAN BEINGS FOR WHO THEY ARE OR HATE THEM FOR NOT BEING WHO “YOU THINK” THEY SHOULD BE ??                                            

WE SHOULD NOT HATE PEOPLE FOR STUPID REASONS LIKE WHO THEY LOVE or HOW THEY LOVE AND WHO THEY HAVE AS FRIENDS ! THERE ARE JUST SO MANY OTHER GOOD POSITIVE REASONS TO CONNECT WITH PEOPLE ! WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU WENT UP TO SOMEBODY AND SAID SOMETHING LIKE, ….. ” I KNOW YOU ARE A JERK BUT IF YOU WERE NICER TO PEOPLE, I THINK I COULD REALLY LEARN TO LIKE YOU ! “. THAT IS A NEGATIVE/POSITIVE COMMUNICATION ! TRY IT….. IT WORKS !

or …… ” HEY !, IF YOU HIT YOUR WIFE AGAIN, I AM GOING TO PAY SOME GUY TO VISIT YOU AND HAVE HIM EXPLAIN WHY HITTING YOUR WIFE IS A VERY BAD IDEA AND ALSO DEMONSTRATE HOW MUCH IT HURTS !. BETTER YET… SEND YOUR MESSAGE IN A HALLMARK CARD. ( safer) WE CAN ALL BENEFIT FROM A WAKE UP GREETING CARD CALL ONCE IN A WHILE. I DO NOT BELIEVE WE HAVE THE RIGHT TO DISCRIMINATE AGAINST ANYBODY BECAUSE OF THEIR SEXUAL PERSUASION. I JUST KNOW IT IS WRONG TO CONDEMN PEOPLE FOR JUST BEING THE WAY THAT GOD MADE THEM. YES, I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT THE OLD TESTAMENT SAYS ABOUT GAY MEN AND GAY WOMEN…..HOWEVER…

BUT LIKE MAHATMA GANDHI SAID:” FORGIVE ME IF I CONTRADICT MYSELF FROM TIME TO TIME BUT AT DIFFERENT TIMES, DIFFERENT THINGS ARE TRUE.”

AND I SAY: “TO HATE GOOD, KIND AND LOVING PEOPLE IS SIMPLY JUST VERY, VERY WRONG !! THEY NEED THE SUPPORT OF THE GOOD PEOPLE OF OUR WORLD! THEY NEED US!

marc

 

 

 

4 thoughts on “HATRED vs. TOLERANCE

  1. It has never mattered to me who/how people love, as long as it’s consensual. But one thing in this post shocked me. You’re a Republican???

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    1. The last time I voted Democratic as for Jimmy Carter. I did not vote in the last election. The one great thing about Donald Trump is that he makes all the other presidents look GREAT ! I did not vote in the last election because I became tired of voting for the person that I thought would do the least damage to the country. Also, I have changed since living here. I am a more compassionate person since I am living here and I am more concerned about what kind of mess we are leaving behind us. Sharon, Moorea and myself are all Libras. So I see both sides of an issue. Sometimes it is easy and sometimes it is difficult. On the Republican side, I am a fiscal conservative. Being a hawk in this world right now is counter productive. We can not fight ourselves out the really serious issues that confront us. Will send you another e-mail later.
      Have a great day ! Marc

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  2. My husband and I just remet one of the daughters of my daughter’s babysitter (when daughter was in 2nd-5th grade) after 30-some years. Hilda has been getting testosterone injections but chooses not to get surgery, and identifies as a gay woman. She told us some hair-raising stories about her experiences, especially some recent ones… indeed, why on earth would anyone *choose* to be gay??? // Her focus is on hypocrisy: (ex) “if [that] is okay for a man, why is it not okay for a woman?” but using gay experiences. I have been using that method of determination since the 80s (“a man is aggressive but a woman is pushy,” etc of the double-standards line of thought), but Hilda asks it and lives it. Gay people have to either submerse themselves in the social lies or be courageous, and she is courageous. // My eldest brother, always a very private person, came out (to a limited circle) in the late 70s; he only told me because I was going to stay with him for several months. Unfortunately, he got AIDS, and died in 1991, just as I was beginning to know him as an adult. // I’m beginning to think most people either personally know of a gay person or have one (or more) in their family. An 80-year-old woman at church told a small group of us that both her children are gay… she said it was the first time she’s told people (maybe outside of her small circle?). … Kind of like autism (being “on the spectrum”); now that it’s a little more socially acceptable to share stories, it seems like there are many, many people somewhere on the spectrum, and not a sudden “epidemic” as was being reported earlier this decade. Reporting is just better. And we’re all people. That’s what makes life interesting (ref The Giver for an alternative world…).

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